I Have Tourette's, but Tourette's Doesn't Have Me

I Have Tourette's, but Tourette's Doesn't Have Me: Dispelling the Myth One Child at a Time

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Sometimes we may have a problem, but the problem may not have us.

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Parable of the Tuna Cat

We have a cat, a polydactyl cat. Because of his extra claws, his brain is a bit short (the extra claws tie up brain function that would otherwise go to more normal uses) and he tends to forget things, like whether or not he has breakfast.

He lives to eat tuna fish, though he is (a) always looking for something better and (b) always forgetting when he has tuna.

But you know, when he is motivated, he really keeps after his goals. They may be simple, he may get confused but that cat is always trying for tuna -- and convinced that he is succeeding (though 75% or better of the time, all we do is pick him up and drop him off at his plate that already has tuna on it -- and he celebrates as if he had just been given tuna rather than just reminded of what he has).

Which leads to two life lessons.

1. Sometimes we are like the tuna cat -- we are out there seeking things we already have.
2. Sometimes we are like the tuna cat -- you can tell what we really want by what we keep after.

Lots of people think they want something, but until they go after it like the tuna cat does, they don't really want it.

Elder Dallin H. Oaks on Marriage

It is important for couples considering marriage to be willing to live with imperfection moving forward. Marriage can be nothing other than imperfect individuals willing to work together to help each other improve (slowly over the years).

I'm glad my wife has been willing to wait while I slowly improve over the years.

Someone else's great post

What my kids learned from competition:

1. You don't always get what you want.


2. You can do things you thought were too difficult for you.


3. You will improve in anything that you work at.


4. Winning feels good.


5. Losing sucks. (Well, it does.)


6. If you lose, you can train harder and try again.


7. You were born into the wrong family if you are looking for someone to accept excuses for not getting what you want out of life.

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Lots more great stuff there, I'm glad I added that blog to my links. Those are all great lessons for kids to learn.

Being a Father and a Husband

We went over a conference talk in our group, then I listened to it again as I listened to the CDs in my car. I loved the points it made.

As a Father

• do not rush past fleeting moments
• do not over-schedule your child or children
• cut out excess commitments and encourage your wife to find time for herself
• find regular times to talk with each child every week
  
• pray, study and teach the gospel.
  

As a Husband

• notice what your wife does -- often and with positive feedback
• have regular times to talk about each child
• give your spouse time away from the children
• when you come home, engage your family, give your wife a break every time you come home as soon as you come home.
• actively interact with your family as soon as you come home (rather than getting into the habit of spending time decompressing).
  

It can be hard, especially if you have ADD or stress in your workplace. If you have problems of that sort, get Vyvance or Tenex or learn to releax, rather than needing to use the internet or isolation to decompress.

I'm trying to incorporate those lessons.

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On having a winning attitude: example
On how the example got that attitude

I like the blogger's attitude who wrote the second essay and have added them to my blogroll links so I don't forget to visit.

More on bread making in just five minutes a day

Per the NYT: “The technique is more or less as streamlined as this: Mix flour, salt, yeast and water. Let it sit a bit, refrigerate it, take some out and let it rise, then bake it. The crusty, full-flavored loaf that results may be the world’s easiest yeast bread.”

See also the video at http://www.startribune.com/video/11967361.html

I've bought two copies of the book so far. Suzette Haden Elgin first recommended it to me (Personal note; making bread; part two...). An Ozark Grandmother who knows her bread, what better source? See the original post at http://ozarque.livejournal.com/487560.html

.	Artisan Bread in Five Minutes a Day: The Discovery That Revolutionizes Home Baking by Jeff Hertzberg and Zoe Francois (Hardcover - Nov 13, 2007) Buy new: $27.95 $18.45 42 Used & new from $14.90

I've got a lot of wheat, and Costco yeast in the freezer.

Errata at http://www.artisanbreadinfive.com/?page_id=73

Watch the videos, read the reviews, then think about it.

Urgency, what makes you feel urgency?

Amazing how urgent some things are.



What do you find urgent?

A useful connection between 12 Step Programs and Grief

I really have enjoyed reading twelve (12) step material. I had hoped it would give me a new perspective on grief and recovery. For the most part 12 step material has turned out not to have much cross-over at all (which is why there are so few blog posts using the material). It turns out that the issues are very different.

One place they have it right is in having people who are still in the turmoil of recovery assist or sponsor those who are just beginning the process. There is an immediacy that creates a connection that aids in healing. I recently went through another step in healing and realized that while I can listen and share experience, faith and hope, I lack the immediacy that creates such a connection in the community.

There are those who are now far better than I to console, to listen, to share with someone who has lost a child. In fact, the strength of Compassionate Friends (a grief support group that has no connection to 12 step programs or much of anything else) is that there are always those there who have an immediacy to there sorrow. If a child dies, they are always available, always share the knowledge and the experience that others do not.

For me, I've healed too much to be of as much use as others can be, and are. Some have noticed the change in my blog's title (though I made it some time ago, with a post). Grief is with me, but it only informs me in a lesser part. I'm grateful for the healing and for the hope it allows me to share. At the same time, the healing renders me less relevant to a group that has been such a core part of my life for so long.

It is good to realize that I am replaced, for reasons that create hope and give me freedom. The dead are not forgotten. I'm not "over" grief. But ... but, I am healed to another stage, renewed and progressed to another level, for which I am grateful.

Thank you God.

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I also actually also owe some thanks to a troll (you can read some of the troll's writing, such as it is, here). Reading the compulsive rants I realized that instead of feeling angry or even annoyed, I found myself thinking about why the rants did not affect me and where I was and how I had changed. I'm grateful for where my life is and for the grace that has come to it.

Amazing Grace

"Amazing Grace"Amazing grace, how sweet the sound
That sav’d a wretch like
me!
I once was lost, but now am found,
Was blind, but now I see.

’Twas grace that taught my heart to fear,
And grace my fears reliev’d;
How
precious did that grace appear,
The hour I first believ’d!

Thro’ many dangers, toils and snares,
I have already come;
Tis grace has
brought me safe thus far,
And grace will lead me home.

The Lord has promis’d good to me,
His word my hope secures;
He will my
shield and portion be, As long as life endures.

Yes, when this flesh and heart shall fail,
And mortal life shall cease;
I
shall possess, within the veil,
A life of joy and peace.

The earth shall soon dissolve like snow,
The sun forbear to shine;
But God,
who call’d me here below,
Will be forever mine.

John Newton, Olney Hymns (London: W. Oliver, 1779)

I love this hymn, always has.

Thanks to S. Faux for the reminder.

On vacation, adoption, theology

I've been enjoying vacation. I love spending time with my family. Makes for a blogging hiatus and a distance for spell checkers, but worth it. I'm posting now, while everyone takes an after church nap.

I'll write more on this topic, but we visited with Tom Morran, one of Win's old boyfriends. I met him first when I was engaged to Win and he was home from Yale. He was a great guy then and has gotten better with time. As time has passed he moved from math to teaching, served in the Peace Corps, got a masters in English as a Second Language, taught in Japan, went to medical school and picked up two board certifications.

He is 47. Lives well within his means, in a modest but beautiful historic home that he and his wife have lovingly restored from the bottom up. To see his home is to respect he and his wife. I plan to copy his handmade arbor. But, he and his wife are trying to adopt a second child.

If you know of someone who has a child they are considering putting up for adoption, Tom Morran is someone of gentle patience and kindness with a delightful wife who is a kindred spirit to Tom. They have one child, a Chinese girl with Thalasemia beta minor (which my sister and mother both have). The three of them would make a wonderful family for any child.

I'll upload a picture when I get home. Bu I really am glad that Win and I were able to see Tom and his family.

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I don't post much theology on this blog. That generally ends up on a group blog I am a part of. The general posts can be found collected at:

http://mormonmatters.org/author/stephen-marsh/

I've got more drafted to add to the series, though the ones of affliction means and how it relates to us are ones I consider important.

More later.

Shot a five shot group in under an inch

Was sighting in a rifle I was given for Christmas. I haven't shot for forty years.

My eyes aren't as good as I'd like, I had trouble with the last group, trying to figure out if I was even hitting the target. Turns out my last five shots after the last sight adjustment were in a group under an inch, with several of them touching.

Well. Now to adjust the sight just a little more. Maybe some day I'll even be ready to go hunting with the guys. Or maybe more target shooting with my daughter (she was captain of the rifle team after all).

Moving on, completely off topic while we wait for the Olympics:





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Just waiting for the Olympics, thinking about vacation, silly stuff.

Also, a useful post by someone else: How to avoid demonization

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From:
A Law Professor and a Policeman Tell You Why You Should Never Speak to a Policeman Without Your Lawyer Present

First, the lawyer:

Second, the policeman:

He shows how he gets around the recommendation of the lawyer.

Kudos -- a game about recovering and finding life choices

Actually posted August 31, 2008, back dated to avoid conflicts.

Well, we got evacuated, so I'm back early.

"It's 6.pm on April 24th, 2008. You are 20 years old and single. Tonight is your twentieth birthday. You live alone in a small flat in Slough, a suburb of London, England. Somehow you left school without any qualifications to speak of, and you have a dead end job with no future. What are you going to do with your life? and what will you have achieved by your thirtieth birthday?"

Kudos is the life-simulation game developed by Cliffski (Positech Games, Makers of Democracy). It's a game of social relationships and choices, available on PC and Mac.

Lots of kids find themselves about twenty or so, no direction, and being dragged down by the slackers and parasites around them that they have chosen over their family and loved ones. Flunking out of school, unable to even finish an American Heritage class.

This is a game that helps them think about where they are going with their life now that they are on their own and where they might have gone if they had made other choices. Great for your pre-teen when looking at life around them.

http://www.positech.co.uk/kudos/index.html

Angel Falling Softly -- A Review and Comments

I was sent a review copy of Angel Falling Softly. Most of this review will be about things that the book is not.

First, most people will have heard about the book because the publisher is trying to stir up some controversy about the lesbian sex scenes contained in an LDS audience novel. Sorry, not much there (in fact, first time through I just edited the scenes out as I read like any other fan service and didn't realize they were there, second time through, there isn't enough there to call it a lesbian sex scene in anyone's perspective other than a publicist's).

Second, it isn't really "Bishop's wife seeks to have child turned into a soulless undead monster rather than letting the child leave mortality in a more conventional fashion." Quite the dilemma? I don't see it. I'd give a lot to have my daughters back, but not as revenants, that isn't having them back, just evil possessing and riding their bodies. But, that isn't what is happening either in this story.

Third, it isn't typical soft porn romance novel with a supernatural Mary Sue figure as the lead character. That is an entire genre now, with its conventions, imprints (special publishing houses devoted to just that kind of novel) and New York Times bestsellers. I'd have soon tried to eat the garbage as read some of that, but that isn't what the novel is about, though the cover could well pass for an upscale version of that sort of book's cover. If you want one of those, go over to the grocery store, they'll have them with the rest of the disposable books.

The book is something entirely different, an exploration of the human condition with an LDS background (though for all it mattered, it could have been any group, kindly treated) and one of the modern vampire types who are likeable characters, with souls, generally either aliens, virus victims or mutatants (or sometimes all three) who just happen to have knowledge, power, wealth and angst.

Eugene Woodbury is the author, and if you slow down when you read it you will realize it has his touch.

Now in some ways, the book is too short, with not enough words. It verges on fanfic territory as it gets started (Mormon vampire fanfic !? ?!) with things like "bishop" and such sketched in as placeholders rather than explained. But at the pricepoint they had, 225 pages or so is probably all that they could squeeze in.

It gets beyond cardboard. Some eroticism, though Woodbury often seems drawn to that, but not graphic or intense, merely keeping consistent with the modern vampire (compared to the completely non-erotic drauger of times past). Much less than a normal novel any more, and no where near enough to justify any attention.

This is mainstrem writing, not fantasy, horror or erotica. In the end, the story is really about love, family, redemption and hope. The rest is just window dressing, or things that the novel really isn't.

Angel Falling Softly by Eugene Woodbury (Paperback - Jun 30, 2008)

Buy new: $11.96

Facing my bad habits, growing

I've a bad habit of passing along what can best be described as positive gossip -- positive things people have said about others behind their backs. That, in and of itself isn't a bad thing, but I find myself tempted to reframe things slightly. I was reflecting on it today in church. Sometimes reframing is just that, changing the perspectives or illustrating the essential truth in better words than the original speaker used. But it can be tempting to go too far. I'm learning to watch myself to prevent that, gilding the lily only lessens the truth.

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This blog grew out of an on-line journal I was keeping as a part of keeping my identity separate from grief. I may have had things happen to me, but I was determined that I would not become defined by those things. By writing I was able to put distance between what had happened and myself.

I was getting ready to quit the process when I discovered that what I was writing helped a small audience not really helped enough. So I continued.

I'm glad it is a small audience and only wish it were smaller, that no one experienced the death of a child. Of the things I've blogged about, the rituals and experiences of grief are the least interesting to a general audience. When I blog in that area, hits on the blog always go down.

I can easily double the readers or more by writing on diet. People seem to be drawn to SLD, and by November I will have been using the method for three years. I lost a lot of weight, then brought it back up to 189 and then stayed at that weight for over a year. Recently my weight has slipped down (177.6 this morning). It will probably slip some more, but weight loss isn't what I am really about.

But I have been thinking. It is eleven years since Robin was born and we just recently hit another stage of healing. I know my blog title was designed to make those who were grieving feel more at home, more comfort at being here, than they might have otherwise felt. But it isn't the way I am any more, even at a distance. So I changed it a while back.

That doesn't mean that I'm changing direction or that I'll start focusing on things that draw more attention and more hits. Rather, I'll probably blog about grief a great deal less here, and probably blog a good deal less all in all. I'm not sure I have much more to say. As for Mormon Matters, the group blog I'm with, the way it has become the round the clock gay marriage blog I'm not sure I have much to blog there about either.

Except to try to think of something positive about Ray (The Things of My Soul) and Hawkgrrl to say about them, behind their backs.

From The Religious Language Newsletter, etc.

Cleaning Up Bad Communication Habits," by Kibbie Simmons Ruth and Karen A. McClintock, online at http://www.alban.org/conversation.aspx?id=6138

It begins with:

"Of the several negative communication patterns congregations practice, three
habits are particularly problematic: triangulation, pass-through communication,
and anonymous feedback. While these three may be strategies for getting needs
met, they all block rather than help healthy communication. Even if well
intentioned, they are deadly habits that in the long run allow people to
dodge accountability, gain power, and alienate others."

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• Escaping the Amish - Part 1
• Escaping the Amish - Part 2

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Persuasion principles

Much of persuasion and other forms of changing minds is based on a relatively small number of principles. If you can understand the principles, then you can invent your own techniques. It thus makes sense to spend time to understand these principles (persuaded yet?).

Alignment: When everything lines up, there are no contradictions to cause disagreement.

Amplification: Make the important bits bigger and other bits smaller.

Appeal: If asked nicely, we will follow the rules we have made for ourselves.

Arousal: When I am aroused I am full engaged and hence more likely to pay attention.

Association: Our thoughts are connected. Think one thing and the next is automatic.

Assumption: Acting as if something is true often makes it true.

Attention: Make sure they are listening before you try to sell them something.

Authority: Use your authority and others will obey.

Bonding: I will usually do what my friends ask of me, without negotiation.

Closure: Close the door of thinking and the deal is done.

Completion: We need to complete that which is started.

Confidence: If I am confident, then you can be confident.

Confusion: A drowning person will clutch at a straw. So will a confused one.

Consistency: We like to maintain consistency between what we think, say and do.

Contrast: We notice and decide by difference between two things, not absolute measures.

Daring: If you dare me to do something, I daren't not do it.

Deception: Convincing by trickery.

Dependence: If you are dependent on me, I can use this as a lever to persuade you.

Distraction: If I distract your attention, I can then slip around your guard.

Evidence: I cannot deny what I see with my own eyes.

Exchange: if I do something for you, then you are obliged to do something for me.

Experience: I cannot deny what I experience for myself.

Fragmentation: Break up the problem into agreeable parts.

Framing: Meaning depends on context. So control the context.

Harmony: Go with the flow to build trust and create subtle shifts.

Hurt and Rescue: Make them uncomfortable then throw them a rope.

Interest: If I am interested then I will pay attention.

Investment: If I have invested in something, I do not want to waste that investment.

Involvement: Action leads to commitment.

Logic: What makes sense must be true.

Objectivity: Standing back decreases emotion and increases logic.

Obligation: Creating a duty that must be discharged.

Passion: Enthusiasm is catching.

Perception: Perception is reality. So manage it.

Pull: Create attraction that pulls people in.

Push: I give you no option but to obey.

Repetition: If something happens often enough, I will eventually be persuaded.

Understanding:If I understand you, then I can interact more accurately with you.

The site these are extracted from has a lot more. Think about when you were persuaded last, were you manipulated?

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GLIBIDITY, Slang. a condition
in which a person gives very glib answers.
from www.carolineletkeman.org

Speed Training

Ok, much of this is advertisement, but there is a lot of useful information in the links as well.

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Rotator Cuff Recovery

A version of this is where I start:

http://catalog.nucleusinc.com/...bit.php?ID=9310 except I'm doing the arm straight and across the body instead of up over the shoulder.

Next, the first stretch this guy does:

http://www.youtube.com/...h?v=zumtlBtQOWw

Then I do this stretch, though one arm at a time:

www.bodyresults.com/_iexer/23DoorJambChest.JPG

finish with up the back:

http://health.yahoo.com/...se--zm2378.html

That is four stretches, done at least six times a week, each stretch held for at least thirty seconds.

The big difference? I wake up pain free in the mornings.

I put this together from the book below, which will take you from beginning to advanced and also provides exercises to do that really make a difference.

Treat Your Own Rotator Cuff by Jim Johnson (Paperback - Jan 7, 2007)

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Also, thanks to Soldog:

Shoulder Savers: Part I
Shoulder Savers: Part II
Shoulder Savers: Part III
The Mobility Complex
Everything Push-Ups
Cracking the Rotator Cuff Conundrum
Short Topic: Get a Grip
The FFB Handbook
8 Weeks to Monster Shoulders


Also, for injuries and issues in general:

Neanderthal No More Part I

On Avoiding Television Appearances

If you've gone through significant grief, you can count on at least once a year being contacted by people who want to put you on television. We've been turning them down for a long time. You don't matter to them, they are just looking for a dose of pathos.

Either a news channel, for the yearly or half-yearly dose of bathos or some "good" organization that wants to stir up donors. If you let them, they will put you in front of groups, on television, and in fundraisers.

I never had the will for it. Sure, before the girls died I did television appearances for mediation. I also did a few for my friend Gary and TSR back in the day, long ago. Other stuff, sure.

But on grief, these days everyone has the message that we will say no. All in all, unless you have a cause that really means something to you, or someone you really owe, it is always best to say no. There is a blessing in not being known.

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On the other hand, doing a television spot for something not grief related? I'm more than willing to do that sort of thing. Especially if it is to promote someone else.

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My alternate photo, the one that is me on vacation, vs. me the rest of the year.

Responses to criticisms of the Shangri-la Diet

That much oil can't be healthy!

• The oil people take on the Shangri-la Diet is less than the oil in a large order of french fries.
• My triglycerides went from over 300 to 50, and stayed there. Obviously the net result has been quite healthy.
  

You were just lucky.

• Except, the Shangri-la Diet (SLD) calories still make a difference. At three tablespoons a day I stayed at 189 lbs for almost two years. If I cut back, I start to gain weight. When I moved back up to four tablespoons of ELOO (extra light olive oil) a day, I started to lose weight.
• Fifty years or so old is a bit old for a metabolic timing change.
  

Only calorie restriction/starving diet and exercise work!

• For 2/3 of 2.8% (that is less than 2%) of the people who are able to do a diet with strict confirmation, there is success: defined at keeping 5% or so of body weight off for a year or so.
• Compared to SLD where if you have forty or more pounds to lose, it seems to be successful for at least 75% of those who stick with it. Success = losing and keeping off thirty or more pounds.
• Compare the numbers: less than 2% vs. more than 70%.
  

But you should enjoy food!

• I do. I just feel like eating less of it, and if I eat more, my metabolism adjusts.
• I'll note that most people who are really fixiated on that point seem disordered.
• Lots of people on SLD actively seek new taste experiences.
• I'd rather not be a slave to food.
  

I could never ...

• Why not?
• It is cheap and uses things that you have around the house.
• You can even use the "midnight oil" approach and it isn't even inconvenient.

The reason almost everyone started with sugar water (two liters of water diluting a half cup of sugar) is that they had sugar around the house. Once that started working for them, they switched to oil, eventually extra light olive oil, walnut oil or flaxseed oil (for the health benefits).

It doesn't make sense!

Well, it is starting to. Seth has his theory (it was his paper on the subject that started the whole movement that resulted in the book). I personally think it has to do with the insulin cycle (which is why oil and sugar water seem to work well for the long run while protein doesn't). Taste/smell trigger the insulin cycle, without those it doesn't trigger and the body adjusts to incoming oils and sugars differently.

It is easy to try, simple, easy and cheap.

There are lots of threads about how to make the diet work better, additional things you can do, various ways to apply the principles. But just try it, remember that plateaus on SLD do not signal that failure is on the way (instead they are a natural resting point, I spent about half of my time on plateaus while I was losing weight).

Just ind a way to avoid flavor or intense food smells for two hours. In the middle, take a tablespoon of extra light olive oil, mixed with a couple tablespoons of water (oil and water don't mix, but if you drink it this way the oil slides down over the water and you don't feel it the same way). Do that for a week.

If your appetite goes down, good. If not, on week two move to two tablespoons and do that for a week. If your appetite goes down, good, if not, on week three move to three tablespoons. Repeat to up to four tablespoons of oil a day.

Adjust as needed, but make the adjustments slowly, once a week, using the same oil (your body needs time to adjust the enzymes that digest the oil, if you decide to change oils, make the change slowly). When you've lost a lot of weight, adjust the amount until you don't gain or lose weight. Then you just keep taking the right amount of oil to keep your improvements.

Yes, after about sixty or seventy pounds lost, you may need to tweak things. If you only have five or ten pounds to lose, I'm not sure it will work easily for you.

While losing weight, make sure to focus your foods on protein and vegetables so you get enough protein and enough nutrients. My secret ingredient is spring mix and carrots.

That is what I'd say if I ahd time to talk and to respond at length to the critics and the questioners. The truth is that the diet (or method, since it is more a set point adjustment method than a comprehensive diet program) works, and it works well.

Unlike a normal diet it isn't just holding your breath until nature takes over and restores equilibrium, it is freedom instead.

BTW, it is on sale at almost 70% off at Amazon right now.

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Shangri la Diet Induction

In diet parlance, “induction” is a special regimen used to introduce a diet. South Beach, Atkins and many others have an “induction” section (at least in several iterations) which is basically designed to create dramatic initial weight loss. The alternate use of “induction” periods is for dealing with plateaus. Most of the time they are slights of hand, things like carbohydrate unloading, massive flavor and food changes that are not sustainable and not very palatable. The question is whether or not SLD should have one.

On the pro side, lots of dieters expect one.

On the con side, SLD doesn’t need one, an “induction” phase masks the fact that SLD really works, and people need to acclimate themselves to plateaus as normal rather than as signs of failure.

You can tell that the more I think about it, the more I think an induction addition to SLD isn’t necessarily a good idea and could well be a bad one.

That said, and reminding people to talk to their doctors first (!) (that is really important):

The easy induction diet goes as follows:

Breakfast:

Nose clip.

Drink water.

Drink a shake made as follows:

1/8 cup protein powder

1 cup non-fat yogurt

2 tablespoons ELOO (this will get them used to ELOO and is a breakfast with about 300 calories).

Drink water

Take nose clip off.

Lunch:

Drink water.

Drink a shake made as follows:

1/8 cup protein powder

1 cup non-fat yogurt

2 tablespoons Flax Seed oil (this will get them used to oils that have to be noseclipped, but that are high Omega 3 and is a breakfast with about 300 calories).

Drink water

Take nose clip off.

Dinner:

Drink water.

Drink a shake made as follows:

1/8 cup protein powder

1 cup non-fat yogurt

½ cup vegetable fiber (alternatives, below):

1. Pumpkin (cooked, from can)

2. Broccoli (steamed, either fresh or frozen)

3. Cauliflower (steamed, either fresh or frozen)

4. Squash (a full cup to make up for ultralow calories)

5. Green Beans (fresh, frozen, dried or canned)

6. Carrots (fresh, frozen, dried or canned)

Drink water

Take nose clip off.

Drink no flavored soft drinks. If you need caffeine, either take it by pill or by caffeine water (available all over, basically water with caffeine in it) not by coffee or tea. Take multivitamin, fish oil and calcium with vitamin d as supplements.

First two weeks, just the shakes.

Third week, on Sunday, take the ELOO nose clipped in two fingers of water.

Otherwise eat normally on Sunday.

Fourth week, on Sunday and Saturday take the ELOO nose clipped in two fingers of water.

Otherwise eat normally.

Then, take ELOO or Flax Seed oil as SLD calories, adjust as needed, eat what you feel like otherwise.

Enough protein to prevent protein wasting. All the calories eaten are SLD calories so it ought to move the set point down sharply.

Fiber to prevent problems.

Acclimation for the oil.

Repeat for stubborn plateaus.

New York was pleasant, but I'm glad to be back in Dallas

Fulfilled an obligation and read a lot. Spent a lot of time on layovers, waiting on delays for closed runways, lightning storms, etc.

New Yorkers that I met were friendly and polite. Not at all as the stereotype goes. Had drivers from three foreign countries: Brazil, Ecuador and the Bronx.

I did a lot of reflecting. But right now I'm glad to be home, so very glad to be with my family, to sleep in my own bed.

I wish you all the same.

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BTW, quoting from the SLD boards, the real source of obesity in the United States:

TV makes you fat.

Studies have shown that TV viewing is directly associated with obesity and weight gain likely because of less physical activity and higher intake of calories. Also, the participants in the study who watched more TV also tended to eat more red meat, processed meat, snacks and sweets, and fewer fruits, vegetables and whole grains. This eating pattern, the authors state, which is directly related to advertisements and food cues appearing on TV, may adversely affect diabetes risk.

http://www.cfah.org/hbns/newsrelease/being6-24-01.cfm

How much TV children watch accurately predicts whether they will go on to become overweight, a study suggests.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4238386.stm

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Here is a link to the video of the show I was on in New York (it is very short) -- it was nice to meet Seth and I've thought a lot.

And some comments on the show: comments (e.g. the publication the doctor cited is a student journal, some other things I did not know).

As for diets, how well do they really work: Alas, a blog, the truth ... (the number of successes looks more like 60% of 2.8%)

But what about the most successful group of dieters - those who managed to obey the seven separate diet restrictions this study called for, for all three years? (That’s a grand total of 198 dieters out of the initial group of 6,857, or 2.8%). Of this tiny, select group, 40% failed to meet this study’s extremely forgiving standard of “successful weight loss.”

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• 10 Ways to Screw Up Your Fat Loss
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Being in bondage

I got this from a friend:

A poor self-image keeps us in bondage to self and makes it impossible to find true humility.

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Also, from Seth Roberts:

This coming Wednesday (July 9), Stephen Marsh and I will be on The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet to talk about the Shangri-La Diet. (In the Bay Area, this show starts at 9 am on the FOX affiliate. It lasts one hour.)

I used to feel as if I were in bondage to food, now I don't.

Fourth of July, Fifth of July, Sixth of July

First time at home for a long time.

This song has kind of come to be a second national anthem for a lot of people, and it still moves me.

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Saw the American Girl movie last night (July third). It is set in the Great Depression and touches on all those themes. I've had times when I had nothing, not even enough food. I'm grateful for everything and for hope.

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It is so different staying in town for this weekend, the first time we have done that in a very long time.

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Honest Medicine

Robin, July 6, 1997 to August 31, 1997

Robin July 6, 1997 to August 31, 1997

I sit and wonder, could it really be eleven years ago that Robin was born on the sixth of July? Seems so long. In 1998 we were still in Wichita Falls. In 1999 I was starting a new job in Dallas. I'm amazed I could do it. It was only a year and a half after her death.

Now we are actually going to stay in town for a fourth of July which we have emotionally connected to Robin. I'm amazed that we are doing that. Sometimes I think I'll wake up and it will be 1992 again and Jessica and Courtney will still be alive, Robin will just be a dream of the future and I'll be in my thirties again, instead of in my fifties.

I'm glad Win made it safely back from girl's camp. I'd be lost without her. I tell her, but I don't think she realizes just how much she means to me.

I need to confess that I'm terribly weak some times

I've rarely spent very long away from my wife. I think that her filling in this week as the camp nurse at girl's camp (they lost the one they had at the very last minute) is the longest. I miss her terribly, even with cell phones. You'd think we were thirteen year-old kids instead of adults.

She also got assigned to a cabin of girls as their advisor. They are about the same age Courtney would have been.

We are also trying something new this fourth of July. We are staying in town for the first time in a very long time.

I look forward to being with friends, but I feel so weak right now. She will be home tomorrow, I'll be stronger then.

On giving advice

Remember four things when giving advice:

• The role and responsibilities of the person on the other side of the table. See the situation from their perspective.
• Your intentions -- keep them pure
• The delivery itself -- focus on tone and spirit in which advice is delivered. This is crucial.
• Summary -- close off the interaction, make sure everyone is on the same page. Whether it's a one minute conversation or four hour meeting, get some closure and action items.

An excerpt from an excellent post on how to give advice.

Actionable advice is best advice. Saying "speak up more" to someone who doesn't talk in meetings is not actionable; saying "say at least three things in the meeting" is more clearly actionable.

That is a good point to remember. Give actionable advice, actions to take rather than principles. Do it with a "because" linked to the principle. E.g. "Say at least three things in the meeting because you need to speak up more" ties together actionable advice with principle advice (and uses the because rule, that advice with the word "because" in it, is better absorbed).

My Brother Daniel

I had a nephew spending the summer working in town, and one of the best parts was telling him stories about his dad.

Apparently no one told him about when his dad played football -- and how in the last game of the season, between the only two undefeated teams left in the state, the other team tried three plays against Daniel's side of the field and ran every other play in the game the other way. Daniel's team won that game 32 to 0 with Dan stealing an interception out of the arms of a receiver in the end zone to stop the only score the other team almost made.

No one told him about the time Dan jumped into a fast running stream to save another kid's life (he was only eleven or so himself at the time). It was summer in Canada, so the water was at least forty degrees.

Or when Dan commuted to graduate school, how he carried a complete set of metric and english socket wrenches so that when he came upon people who were broken down he would be sure to have the tools he needed when he stopped to help.

Or the many hard and unfair things that both Dan and his first wife went through in their lives. They both overcame an awful lot.

Or that Daniel's profound dyslexia was not diagnosed until he was a senior in college. Academic support contacted him, hoping to help him before he flunked out. He sighed, explained it would have been nice if they had contacted him sooner, but he was about to graduate at the top of his class, so it was just a little late.

Seems his son did not know about his dad's undefeated regular season in wrestling either.

Anyway, there is an awful lot of good to say for Daniel, so I thought I'd say it, since it seems he never got around to saying it for himself.

Two blogs worth visiting

• Torture, not an option
• Torture, not an option

Hmm, I listed it twice in my links. It deserves the emphasis. For an explanation of torturing the mad bomber, see: http://www.friesian.com/valley/dilemmas.htm

and

Job's Apprentice

A mother who buried two children.

And do not forget:

Alyssa Peterson

Do that ...

So often the scriptures address what we should do. Over and over Christ told people what to do, to be doers of the word.

There is a great power in "What" -- in doing -- and it is easy to overlook.

Dr. Deb addresses that in http://drdeborahserani.blogspot.com/2008/06/power-of-what.html

It is a good thing to remember.

I used to mediate a lot ...

This comic brought back memories.

Maybe I would have been more successful if I'd had coffee breaks.

Are we children?

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.

When God says that, does he really mean that he is a twenty-first century American and those musty old Hebrews were just not in touch, or does he mean it the same for us as for them?

For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

Anyone who had talked with young children knows that they just don't think the same way that adults do. Anyone who deals with adults also realizes that they think differently than young adults do.

If God is older than two hundred years, and more than twice as smart as we are, he already is likely to think in ways that are vastly different from the ones we use.

I tend to believe that that fact hasn't changed just because we live in the twenty-first century or are Americans.

Do you know any true adults?

Small humor interlude

How to tell if you're Mom's favorite.

I've had days when I felt like that was how I fit in the world.

I'm grateful that better days seem here.

Also, the ultimate contract clause

Comparing gay marriage to interracial marriage

At the water park today we were floating past an interracial couple and someone said something (I missed exactly what it was) about them and my response was "Gee, I'd love to have that couple in my Church" which was my first thought. The other person floated off, never did catch what they meant to say.

On my mission, in the mid-70s, I was asked about interracial marriage and my comment was that there wasn't anything wrong with it. In general, the more things in common you have with your spouse, the better, and race was just one thing among many.

But this morning I was wondering if gay marriages will become in a few years what interracial marriages were fifty or sixty years ago when they still prosecuted people for them in some parts of the country (see miscegenation statutes for more on the topic) until Loving v. Virginia, 388 U.S. 1 (1967) finally put an end to that sort of thing.

I can think of gay couples I'd love to have in our Church.

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BTW, one thing that struck me in reading Ethical Dilemmas in Church Leadership was that a survey of those in Protestant ministry reflected that 23% responded to having done something the felt was sexually inappropriate with persons other than their spouses while in the ministry. (page 68).

Made me feel sad. 12% had engaged in sexual intercourse with someone other than their spouse since entering the ministry. Those numbers are for those who are still currently Protestant ministers, with statistics drawn from an Evangelical oriented group (pastors contacted by Leadership Journal).

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http://www.apolitical.info/webgame/plots/ for something much lighter ;)

Eleventh Article of Faith

11 We claim the ^aprivilege of marrying before the Almighty God according to the ^bdictates of our own ^cconscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them ^dmarry how, where, or what they may.

That is how a friend of mine put it.

On the other hand, we have Jane Galt's perspective.

I'd always wondered where President Gordon B. Hinckley's statement about how we would need to allow domestic partnerships played into the debate.

Quoting from the Wiki about President Hinckley:

Members of the Westboro Baptist Church (WBC) demonstrated near his funeral, accusing him of having an "ambiguous voice" about the gay lifestyle rather than taking a firm stand against it. WBC members protested his weakness against homosexuals at his funeral, and further criticized the church's stance on homosexuality.^[32] One woman explained it was because he "preached that God loves all his children, including the gay ones."

They also seem especially upset that the:

president of the LDS church, President Thomas S. Monson, has stated church members can disagree politically with the church's opposition to same-sex marriage, but if the disagreement turns into an apostasy situation, that would be inappropriate.^[36] Prominent church member Harry Reid has supported same-sex marriage and has maintained good standing in the church.

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(This is my nod to what seems like mandatory blogging on the California Court decision, or maybe it should have been a commentary on the FLDS situation where the FLDS have fewer teenage girls having sex or having children than the Texas population at large. Almost an argument that there is no place in Texas safe to move the children to, other than the YFZ ranch if your goal is to prevent teens from engaging in sex or having children).

I know, I should have opinions of my own, and definite conclusions, rather than leaving it to the rest of the bloggernacle to make pronouncements. Maybe after I've had more time to sleep on it.