- a mother whose only boy has died, and who can't have any other children, and who feels betrayed that God has left her without sons;
- a father whose wife has become an alcoholic and whose children are losing their way;
- someone whose interaction with food has gone terribly wrong and who can't stop gaining weight;
- people recovering from disasters who feel that calamity should not have befallen them;
- a kid who wants to serve a mission but who has developing mental illness issues that medication doesn't quite resolve;
- the list goes on.
Many people who have read my blog know that I've been reading 12-step literature in the hope that it would apply to grief. It does, a little, sometimes. I've written about that too.
But, and this is a big but, there is one area where there is a 12-step group that has feelings of betrayal and resentment down cold. That group is Al Anon. Al Anon is a group for people who have an alcoholic in the family (one of the sub-groups is for kids who have to deal with an alcoholic parent). They have a lot of literature. But, a constant theme, over and over again, is dealing with feelings of betrayal, resentment and the need to control someone else.
This is especially true when people feel betrayed by God in what has happened to them.
Yes, I'd advocate anyone with those emotions to seek counseling. But, you can read things (e.g. here on the official site, and an excellent collection of essays on-line here). No matter what is causing the feelings (and alcoholics often are unfaithful, mentally ill, betrayers -- that is all part of the disease), they have an excellent tool set to help you while a professional gives you additional support.
No question, I value The Anatomy of Peace. But if you need more, there are books like One Day at a Time in Al-Anon (available for 12 cents or so used on Amazon and probably in your local library) that can help with the emotional states, to give you encouragement and hope in dealing with the pain, confusion and anguish.
That can help you find peace.
For some "middle age crazy" links: