To get in touch with your feelings again can be a shock. you will find:
- Feelings are stronger and more intense than you remember [and you have to learn to deal with emotions all over again as if you were a child]
- The feelings you have are not the ones you expect [nor will they be the same emotions day after day]
- Feelings are not facts [feeling worthless does not mean you are worthless; anger does not mean the other person has done wrong]
- Feelings can be nurtured, guided and shaped ["...bridle all your passions, that ye may be filled with love ..." is more than just dicta in the scripture]
Regaining feelings is like stepping out of a cave into noon-day light: intense, starling, blinding and confusing. Many people step into disaster, others hide back in the darkness. But, with understanding, you can come back safely into the light, living a life more vivid than it was before, and more rewarding.
If you have lost touch with your feelings and find them returning, regardless of the cause, it is my hope that keeping these four points in mind will help you succeed in the transition.