I had a post about Mormons and Feminism at Wheat and Tares.
It occurred to me, after the funeral, that Krista Oakes made a perfect coda to the essay.
On the one hand she ran her own business, was twice the keynote speaker at the FDA/Industry annual conference for her industry, composed music and lived her own life.
On-line she was at:
- http://2ofus4now.org/ -- an LDS infertility, adoption, and pregnancy loss support network she started.
- http://onkristasmind.blogspot.com/ "I have brain cancer and a "blast" in my spine. Blog, blog, blog..."
If you asked her to define herself, she would say: Gas pump virgin, conservative Texan, adoptive mommy to Jacob and Emma (world's greatest kids), small business owner, Mormon, diva, Leo, pampered wife, bookworm, author, clog dancer, third-generation insomniac, cookie monster, karate black belt, brain cancer survivor, and more - all rolled up into one tired but lovable bundle.
More is the loss to LDS feminists that people like Krista could not find a home with them.
We made it to the funeral, though Win had to take more pain medication to make it through (she is still post surgery, no lifting, will be off work for six more weeks) as it went almost two hours. I found myself admiring President Mills very much, and, of course, respecting Krista even more.
She will be missed. The ward program for Sunday had her doing two solos, in case anyone wondered how much of a surprise her death was. She will not be easily replaced.